On the way to work one morning they were discussing an article about a college paying a dollar a day to young women to not get pregnant. The consensus being that we have become a society that blurs the line between motivating and rewarding when we should be teaching to do right because it's right.
Part of the problem is that the church is not communicating the gospel effectively. Our actions speak louder than our words. We communicate more by how we live, how we relate to others, respond to opposition, not by our words that are often ambivalent, unfriendly or worse yet hostile. When we protest loudly, demonstrate vehemently, boycott what we don't like, and support only Christian business's we are sending the wrong message.
We think they aren’t hearing what we are saying but often they are hearing but not receiving, it’s how we communicate. We cannot stand back and complain about the state of our nation when the church has not effectively communicated the gospel. The Word tells us that they will know us by our love. We are called to love the unlovable, the different, the ones we would not ordinarily give a second thought to. Then when we have their attention we pray for the right opportunity to share the message of hope.
Should we pay young women to remain chaste? No but then we also should offer them a viable reason and alternative. How about respecting yourself because you are wonderfully made? How about not succumbing to peer pressure because you deserve to make your own choices? How about teaching young men to respect the young women as well as themselves that to not wait is giving away part of yourself that can never be regained. But these options all need to be presented with love and respect and not as a legalistic rule.
See the basis of love is allowing free choice because if it's not a choice then it's not love.